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Top view!

Hi There!!

who doesn’t like the top view? Top position at your job place, top view from your home balcony or any other top angles in your life, career or around. I am sure each of you has experienced at least a few top angles while you tried any roller coaster ride, water rides or any other fun rides in amusement parks some time in your life. No doubt its thrilling and I love it too.

Many of them including younger ones, elders and at times if health permits older generation can easily understand, feel and enjoy the thrill in these top views or angles they experience for few minutes through these various rides, games or any other fun-filled mediums. But have we thought of the top view of life and its beauty? The impact it creates on us and our lives when we start thinking and seeing everything from the top view? What kind of thrill or fun it’s going to be? What we may experience when we try to think stuff from top viewpoint when required in our daily life or during any other critical situation?

Ability to think beyond, Decision-making skills, adaptability, and maturity to act in each situation in our life is most important. Few key skills once implemented can change our perception totally towards life and accordingly consequences follow. Let me put an example that popped up in my mind while I was returning back from my gym the other day.

It was Monday and as part of my routine, I headed to the gym. Finished 45 mins of work out and met my gym friends on a regular chat. One of my friends is carrying and she was slowly working out on thread mill at her own comfort.  After a while, I decided to take the stairs instead of the lift for a change. I even remembered taking stairs was a regular habit in my childhood and now people prefer lift even for the first floor. I need to finish 8 floors in order to come to my flat and I thought this can add to my regular gym. I started slowly climbing each staircase and reached floor 1. There is a park just opposite my building where I am able to view the lush greenery through the transparent glasses of the building at each floor while climbing. When I reached floor 1 I stopped by a minute and realized the view fo the park at ground floor is different from floor 1. I clicked a picture with the mobile in my hand for a recap later. After a few minutes, I reached floor 3 and realized the view is even more different from floor 1 and ground. In fact, the view is much better and clear.  Strangely this is the same park I see each day from my balcony but now, my mind started seeing the it in different ways. I continued climbing stairs and reached floor 6. The view of the park also included the view of beautiful buildings and architecture it has around. That was even more wonderful. At each stop 1//3/6 I clicked pictures.

Finally, I reached floor 8. The TOP VIEW is just spectacular and awesome. Everything is clear, near to my mind and I could sense the differences between the views on each floor I had. My mind immediately felt soothing and relaxed for no reason. This thought popped up immediately while I was standing there enjoying the top angle view of the city, park, and things around me. Initially, my view was so narrow and limited. As and when I am climbing stairs and reaching the top view, the clouds are clear with greenery underneath and beautiful city in the middle with a top view. In the same way, if a person is able to slowly enhance one’s own thinking abilities and perceive things accordingly the view he gets at the end is enormous.  He/she will be able to understand from various angles according to the situation and not just from his/her own perspective. The mind has the superpower to think, analyze and articulate things. It’s just that we need to tune it accordingly and make it learn how to balance varieties of emotions and situations around us. It is so innocent that whatever we give, it immediately tends to show us back. Anger, sadness, joy all are so essential in our lives, we tend to ignore few, imbalance few and leave a few on its own. Rather if we try to take charge of each of them and learn to balance, life changes from the next minute. What is life? It’s our thinking, perceiving things and our action towards each person or situation. My understanding followed many other consequences I personally had in the past and meanwhile I reached my flat door slowly.

I understood, anger love, sadness, and all other emotions have a definite meaning and should be used wisely in the right place, with the right people and at right time. Like the way we drink and finish our favorite drinks to the last drop, life has its own hidden beauty and grace. Matured thinking, wisdom, and fine knowledge is most important to handle each situation and conquer the difficulties. It’s like we change the camera lenses according to the height, depth, and angle of the image to be clicked perfectly, I guess a person needs to think wise, adapt and accommodate according to the challenge, situation or person accordingly for better peaceful life experience.

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Difficult situations and people can be better handled when we start seeing them from a little far rather than sticking around and making more mess. Thanks to my better half in life who started mentoring me since we met.

Hope you would start seeing things differently and give a try to think beyond when required and make your own life more beautiful and lively. This gives some sense of internal satisfaction and happiness to us and to the people around. Positivity can spread fast too.

As always, thanks for stopping by and reading my mind!! 🙂

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A little girls story with stars in the sky!!

Hello there!!

Been a while I sat on my blog site. I was watching a movie yesterday after finishing our dinner and one of the movie scenes made me travel back in time with my childhood mother’s love and happiness filled memories. Here it is. Please read and enjoy! blink…blink…blink!!

It was way back in 90’s – 2000 I guess. The life used to be much calmer and settled. No gadgets, no partying hard and no hurry lifestyle in and around. Its only a few friends in the school and family around for me. I was one fortunate child who could spend more time with parents and people around, unlike the era that is happening now. It was like life is mine which is made only for me. There were already two kids before me and my father always loved the home to be full of laughing and jumping kids around. After I was born my family felt we are complete. The first two were calm and reserved by nature yet they are amazing kids in their own way. I was born calm where my mom says I didn’t cry much or bothered her much. I consider myself very different and more of nature’s person. I always loved to sleep with my mom or somewhere near to her. I feel there is a different warmth and secured feeling I get whenever I sleep with her or beside her. I always used to make sure I am closest to her and my hands wrapped around her body. This is one of the best and finest happiness in the world. I should say my innermost soul feels ecstatic even now with tiny tears in my eyes trying to flush out. Nothing else in this universe can beat this feeling of unconditional love and warmth. I believe this could be infants emotions too inside the mother’s womb before taking birth. Many emotions and feelings are not always explained in any language. Nature is the best way to understand and feel it.

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My father used to work in a bank and once in three years, we are supposed to get transferred to a new place. Life used to be a bit different with a new place, a fresh bunch of buddies and a new school. However, after some time there are many new stories that would come up with new people and school times. I remember I was in class 6 at age of 12. This time it was not a very well developed city but a town with a limited number of people and one single highway that has the complete town staying to its right and left. We had a very big portico in the house we rented.

There used to be power cuts in summers where we stayed. A lot of mosquitoes too. I know its very gloomy to study especially during exams and during night times but these powercuts gave me wonderful memories is what I think now. 🙂

We had no other option but to set up beds outside our home and try to get some sleep. My father never liked the idea of sleeping out. He somehow adjusted himself inside the bedroom itself. I felt sad for him as the rooms were very hot from the daylight sun. My mom, my sister, brother and myself would always love to sleep outside. Most of the times, I am the one who tries to secure a big bed to sleep beside my mother. I use to have many funny and senseless conversations with her from my tiny mind at that age. My mother used to answer many with utmost patience and grace. I remember we both used to spot many shapes of the stars and tarot signs from the sky. We used to talk about Milkyway, galaxies and many more. Slowly without my conscience, I used to get into sleep as the cold and soothing wind comes and passes by. Wrapping myself inside the blanket that I and my mom shared was the beautiful feeling I ever had. In the middle of the night, If I had a short break of opening my eyes, I make sure to check my mom is beside me. Nights are sometimes scary too. 🙂 My mother is my biggest support and safety cover. Whenever I think of the old times, I feel how close and happy I was in my childhood with her always being around me and spending more time with me.

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The time she invested in me and in my growth is priceless. The happiness and secured feeling my mind gathered at that tender age got so stuck in me, I feel pleasant and happy even today. Memories and her presence in my life since I am born are the ones I cherish forever. After marriage though I moved to some other place with my partner, I carry all the wonderful times spent with her and continue to do so. Mother is one of the wonderful creation of God from whom nature continues to re-happen. Please give time to your mothers at their old age and try all the possible ways to make her feel good and special. Family time and true emotions can’t be found everywhere. They are rare and priceless. Please value your families, time in your life and gods gift of life.

It’s sad when I see today’s newborns where they are left in daycares right from 6 months of age after they are born. Those were the lovely nights and serene sleep times I had in my childhood with my mother and nature. Happiness lies in tiny things. It’s rare that we realize and feel it. I believe for whatever I am today my parents are completely responsible. They gave me the most secured childhood and a great life.

These days I carry similar experiences with my better half on our holiday times now and then. He also enjoys sitting and spotting stars with me. I feel this is one way of relaxing ourselves and touching our souls within of being together. We spend time chatting and checking tiny, big and sparkling stars under the biggest natures roof. I believe in praying whenever we spot a falling star too. One of my friend and a lot of movies made me do so. 🙂

Even today, I love to share and recollect all my lovely moments of life with my mother and father back home.

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Fish need not be taught with swimming!

Hey there!

Long time I have written something and today I felt like writing about nature, its creation and the invisible intelligence hidden in every creature with life in it.

I have finished my lunch and being a Friday noon, wanted to go till the super store to fetch myself with some veggies, fruits and some monkey nuts to avoid weekend shopping. It’s partially sunny though the wind is very chilled outside. I finished all my day time activities and headed towards the store. It was a good short walk I had and felt lovely with the interactions I had with the nature during my walk. Many people feel aloneness is a punishment however, if used in a right way its BLISS. This is the time we get to spend with our self, some internal thought process happening and yeah some sensible self talk.

I reached the store and quickly grabbed what I wanted and finished my billing.  On my way back home, I felt like sitting in the park that happens to be one of my favourite place anytime to relax looking at the greenery and the squirrels jumping around and playing. The interactions I make with the nature and the tiny creatures in the park are just awesome. Spending few minutes each day with nature, trees and the tiny living beings that make these greenery spots as their homes is just a wonderful experience and soothing to mind. In fact all these pigeons, parrots and squirrels, ducks and other creation make these parks more beautiful and lively.

So here comes the tiny little story for today. This squirrel was making rounds around the bench I sat and looks at me now and then. Once I make any sort of noise or move, it goes back with jet speed and tries to climb the tree near by. Since many days I was thinking of feeding these squirrels with any nuts and today comes the lovely moment. Luckily, I had some monkey nuts with me and invited all the squirrels for the nut party. haha I wondered how would all of them know that I have announced a party with nuts in my hand? Here comes the fantastic creation of god. One after the other all of them followed and grabbed the nuts from my hand. I slowly started filming and taking pictures with the other hand and could capture few ecstatic moments while they are saving food for the approaching winter days.

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It caught the nut with its mouth and headed searching for a right spot all over the ground with grass and dried leaves that fell from the trees. After a quick search it places the nut very close to it and digs a tiny pit with its front pair of legs and places the nut inside with some mud on it patting carefully again and again. During this process of safeguarding its nut, I was wondering who taught all this to this little squirrel?? Who must have warned to save some food for the coming winter days? Who is behind them for all this planning and implementation? I remembered the saying often my mother says to me ” Fish need not be taught how to swim”.

I was feeling very pleasant inside me through out and felt its the almighty who created them has made all the necessary intelligence to survive and gather food for its life. The super power is responsible for all this beauty of nature and planning. My long time wish to feed them got fulfilled and I felt really happy to be part of the creation and contribute very little for the squirrels winter food factory. 🙂

I must say its a wonderful and perfect evening for me personally and I hope to have many more opportunities to be part of this lovely nature and feel all the pleasure and happiness it has in store. While coming back home I even thought of my father and my lovely hubby who likes nature and such sweet instances. I was travelling through this complete incident along with the tiny squirrels in front of my eyes and my parents and husband inside my mind. What else should be the definition of happiness and power of thoughts? This is it all!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

Thanks for reading this blog taking sometime. I hope you too get to watch and feel the nature closely some time soon!!

She is graceful!

This blog is all about being warm and empathetic towards others, giving time and taking care of those who seek your help and assistance. Skill of being sensible in this fast paced technology gadget filled world. Having those little emotions and concern towards others, and after all-knowing your limits and carrying a graceful attitude in everything you do.

After a long wait we have finally relocated from our mother country as my husband was offered a work based role abroad on a temporary basis. Flying and travel were fine and now comes the hunt for a home. 🙂

As per our past experiences and happy stay, we have decided to choose the same flat we rented sometime back. However, there happens to be a delay  for the moving date with a gap of 3 weeks between vacating our temporary stay before we occupy the new flat. Luckily, my husbands school friend stays in the same city with his family. We thought he would be the right choice to spend these 3 weeks before we move in to our flat.

It was a very fine morning and sunny day. A cab was hired from the hotel we stayed to their home. Almost after a 45 min drive, we reached their place and got a warm welcome by the couple. To my  surprise she has already made the necessary arrangements for our 3 week stay. Here I meet this girl with an interesting personality.

As there is a say “Gracefulness has more impact than beauty“. In brief she is quick and sensible. Knows her limits and ways to treat people to the best of her efforts. Genuine and energetic by nature and talkative too. People may mistake that she is calm and reserved at very first instance but she tends to open up over a period of time with those who make good conversations with her. And here comes the biggest mismatch to all the attributes I mentioned abv. lol She is much younger to me and belongs to 90’s born.  In current situations and changing lifestyles, its difficult and rare to encounter such females who are born from 90’s yet so down to earth and have good maturity levels and sensibilities.  These day things are happening in a such a way that there is no more a difference or a very little difference between nature of being male and female. IT world is trying to shade away the limits and boundaries set by nature drastically. Feminine and loving nature in females is slowly vanishing with time and changes in the lifestyles.

She was so warm and welcoming, it really made us feel better and happy through out our stay.  There could be other options for us to find a stay anywhere else too but the feeling of being part of a home and family is priceless in a new country. I could feel the pleasantness and welcoming attitude  in her treatment towards us no matter she is meeting us so closely just for the second time. The complete stay went well and four of us had a good family time.

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I am writing my experience with her for two reasons. One being the love and joy she shared with us by helping out through out our stay. Secondly, personally making me feel loved and proud to meet a girl young at age and high in maturity and thoughtfulness that I rarely get to meet in general. A four wall room becomes a home and happy place to stay only when the lady of the house is welcoming and graceful with pleasant personality.  My elders always say – “You will have guests visiting you often and dines with you only when the lady of the house is welcoming and loving towards people and acts responsible towards their needs”. Before we moved out, as a friendly gesture, we tried to show them our thankfulness by selecting few useful gifts for their lovely home however, I realize the help they offered to us is more than anything that we could give back.

I believe any sort of help we get through someone matters when we need it at some situation in life! Every small piece of support has to be valued and treasured. All good you did in the past/present/future comes to you when you need the most from the universe. I believe this very much and pray god to give me more opportunities in life to serve for the better and do good. I wish to meet and spend time with more such genuine hearted and helpful souls to grow and strengthen my life experiences.

I wish them all the best in their lives and will cherish the good days we spent together. As a gift, this blog is to the couple we met and spent quality time.

Thanks for reading my blog as always!

 

 

A divine feel!

It was almost close to 12 am in my city and my husband is already in sleep having lovely dreams and making conversations with some angels I guess. I am sitting on my bed trying to catch up some sleep however due to my noon nap, I had to wait a little more!

Since few days, I am playing few meditation related and soothing tunes that my husband introduced me to! They are really calm and extremely pleasant. While I listen to them, I am able to be away from any other unusual thoughts that usually poke in to my brain quite often. They are definitely painful and make my energy levels low and not a good feel EOD.  I try my best not to talk to them but sometimes, there is very less choice left!!

We as a couple believe in spending sometime with each other before we sleep after a long day’s work and busy lifestyle. It could be anything like talking to each other though we have nothing important or meaningful sometimes lol…,good and bad stories from our childhood experiences and few more minutes to be calm and relax ourselves before one among us feel sleepy. 🙂 We made it as a rule to keep ourselves away from mobiles and any other electronic gadgets in a dim and calm bedroom at least 30 minutes before we sleep. That night these lovely tunes were also talking to us as a part of pleasant good night conversations! I was feeling so nice, in few minutes I entered into a different zone of calmness. You may not believe, there is certainly a different ” Divine Feel” I experienced that night and I loved it. Its hard to explain until one gets an opportunity to feel it but let me give my best try to explain in few words I can.

By then, my husband is already asleep when I turned to talk to him. I kept calm allowing him to continue his sleep slightly turning towards my pillow. The window was wide open and I could see stars and the seven divine yogis we call in our culture. (Who reside in the sky in the form of stars – also called as holy saints in general) . If you can spot them this night, the below is what you should see!!

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After long time I was able to see so many other stars including them since the sky was very much clear that night. I remember spotting such stars and asking my mom for their names and star signs in my childhood when we slept outdoors in summers. At that moment, my mind was filled with happiness thinking about my family and life I am blessed with, and a special calmness even though my mind made me remember many others who also gave me pain/challenges and hurtful feelings so far in my life. This time, I got a pleasant smile on my face thinking of them too. This is what I call as a Divine Feel. No hurting anymore or no disturbance rather I felt life is simple and people are playing their own roles as destined.  I could forget the city I am residing and the family I am born and my loving husband sleeping beside me. I am somewhere in another world of thoughts at that moment.  I prayed for everyone’s well being irrespective of their treatment to me and started enjoying my inner peaceful space. In fact I felt the disconnectedness from every thing around me and anyone I know in this world all at once for a minute.  I was able to feel and inner soul existence without being attached to any thing or a person. Its like no bondage or emotional baggage attached.  Few drops of tears fell from eyes too while I am undergoing this process inside me.  It was like floating in space with a very lite weighed particles that made me and having no sounds or anything as such around me. To mention, there was this light midnight traffic downstairs of my flat since the window was open but I couldn’t feel anything as such. Absolute calmness within!!

No one is good/bad by birth or no one is eternal here. All the relationships we have and people we meet are here in our life are just for a reason and only for a season. No point in hurting back or cultivating any other unusual feelings on such people. At that moment, I could feel the time and energy I wasted in getting hurt again and again many number of times for reasons that are unnecessary and for the people who just came into my life to make me learn something. I felt where ever I felt pain and hurtfulness, there is some learning for me to know and realize. I need to ignore the outer layers of the situation and people who play a role in those kind of tough or complicated situations and look in to the depth to pick up the precious learnings that are stored inside just for me. One has to dive in to depths to pick up the precious pearls from the shells. In this course, one has to overcome the heavy tides and unwanted obstacles during the travel. Many get scared with the tide strength and get back to the shore. I was one among these till I felt this. Now I know to dive or at least give a try here onwards.

Many times people get carried off with the hurting situation and divert themselves towards anger, cry and depressing feelings or loose hope. They tend to loose the current happiness/time or loving people they have around them. Impact is huge on the mind be it good or bad. I felt I should not be stuck with emotions and hurtfulness rather move on taking the learning’s and leave the unnecessary baggage. I said to myself that’s fine if I need to meet and spend time with few people who are not close to me or doesn’t matter to me in my life directly. You may feel ignored or unnoticed by few that you may expect or want to get close with. Acceptance to the truth in life that not every one we meet should get close to us and love us unconditionally. Only few souls are destined to connect and travel with us in this lovely journey.  Rest are there to create obstacles and give a strong push for us to create such lovely journeys. Privilege of being an important  part of our life’s journey is only given to few souls who deserve however, purpose of life is reached with the help of these two categories odd/best ones. We tend to ignore this fact many times thinking the odd one’s are here to ruin our peacefulness in life. This process starts from school if we observe. There is a reason for us to see/meet/greet them. To overcome the hurtfulness and ignorance from the people we love and feel like close to heart is a challenge and I too agree. However, if a human being can think beyond it is possible. Its just that it has to happen within us consistently.

One has to start the process of choosing such divine and powerful thoughts to support the internal system of feeling good and to elevate higher level of consciousness. If some one is hurting, that’s fine. Give it sometime for them to realize the actual facts or move on with your life. Time has all the solutions and realizations planned for each individual. No other way here! Every one has to learn and lead life. Just that timing makes a difference for each individual.  Nothing is more important than self or life within us. Taking care and spending time with the few people who love us and are behind our success and failures is good as long as we are alive. Most importantly, not hurting or ignoring these few loving souls creates more happiness in life. Say “Hello” to the ones who message you or try to chat with you taking a minute time from your life. Saying the same “Hello” on your own to people also gives you a great feeling.  Always giving has more pleasure than taking! Don’t wait for an opportunity to do things for your loved ones rather create one. Time and tide waits for none! Remember?!!!

Think of the purpose you are born and if possible try to love every one though they get back to you with hurtfulness. If not possible to love and care as I understand the fact not all get connected to us, dont hurt or ignore anyone who is around you. No one is eternal here and time is running!

Everything pays off at the end and the pleasantness you get while being good towards people is huge and intense. It matters! One has to feel it to understand.

Thanks for taking time and reading my blog!

 

Elephant and our tiny adventure!

Elephant in the mud!!

It was back in olden times when I was below 10 years of age. I have a little sister “Mansi” with me during summer holidays and we all were travelling to Tirupati – a very famous holy place in INDIA from my hometown. She is one year younger to me and equally naughty and playful.  She is a good writer and loves to read books and travel. I remember it was sometime in the late evening and we all were busy playing and running around while our parents are busy preparing dinner and packing the bags.

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Me with my little sister!

There was a very scary movie that was telecasted the same evening and we are able to spare time for the movie without my mom knowing it and busy with this elephant too! Kids can always multitask well I guess! lol I still remember I was scared but however equally curious to watch scene after scene in that movie. We are getting close to the train time and I remember my mom calling us inside home to get ready. Meanwhile, both of us started planning to carry this mud elephant in the bag along with us as a part of our travel. In this process we dropped it on floor and in seconds the mud elephant is no more in a shape and turned in the form of tiny pieces in just seconds. Not knowing what to do next, we thought this broken mud elephant should be hidden somewhere till we are back from our holiday. We both were scared and careful in making some plan quickly before someone at home finds this! In fact to avoid the scoldings for breaking this toy!

Finally we both came to a deal that this broken elephant should be buried inside the mud in our small garden we had in our house.  This way we thought no one will be able to know what happened to the broken elephant and we would be done with it till we are back from our travel. We successfully digged a semi sized hole inside the mud and kept it safely inside.

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Our tiny toy and lovely memories!

After four days we were back home but somehow totally forgot about the biggest adventure we did before leaving home. I always cherish the lovely childhood we had and the memories we shared with my immediate cousins. The scary feeling we had at that small age, highly intelligent of making a deal together with my younger sister to bury the elephant inside the mud and talking to it while doing it with loads of love and feeling sorry that we are doing it to the elephant we played and loved so much before. All these innocent and transparent thoughts kids generally have at that age are so beautiful and pleasant,it makes me feel good and thanks to my memory too. I remember most of the things we did together and makes me happy even now at this moment. We all used to meet during our summer holidays and always play many games and run around.

I had a chance to share this memory that flashed suddenly in my mind today before I started writing here and she is equally thrilled like me and she remembers too! Today we are staying in two different countries with a happy and blessed life and still attached with these memories and bonding we had since our childhood.  As I always believe distance doesn’t matter between any relationship or two people. It’s the healthy and positive mind and simple effort to stay connected and cherish all the good times in life. I have spent an hour already with all these pleasant memories while I thank the almighty for giving me a happy and blessed life so far!

Innocence is a blessing to overcome many negative or disturbing things we face in our lives after entering in to a responsible and adult age. When we are surrounded with responsibilities or any troubles coming along in the form of  learnings, this hidden treasure of innocence and child in us will be one of the rescue point to gather strength to face and succeed in life. I strongly believe having a pinch of childishness within you at any point of age is always good and helps to express openly and feel all tiny and small things around us. My father always says – Money, jobs, assets, luxurious lifestyle anything as such can end with time but good memories and respect we earn while we are in age will travel with us till the end making us happy and peaceful within the soul.

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Women – A great creation!

 

             A happy women’s day and carry all the pride and grace of being a women!

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A very simple but in most adorable way to all the women out there in the world!! It’s a wonderful feeling of being a woman who is blessed with the greatest capabilities and strengths. They are sensitive, beautiful, intelligent and yes most lovable. A great daughter to some one, a wonderful wife and a lovely mother and a great professional at work. She is the one in god’s creation who lives her life with utmost ease and beauty. A special day to remember all the great women in the world like mother Theresa, Indiragandhi and many more. Respect and love your mothers, wife and love your daughters even more and make them feel special. They are the greatest emotional support one can have and sense of colour and happiness in life. Nurture them when they require support and help. All they need is love and care!

I take this opportunity to write today on this occasion as a gift to all the women in the world who made many sacrifices for their families, to all their achievements may be big or small, may be at home or at work. Celebrate each day as it comes!

Thank you and best wishes!

Interview! – Happening since 6 years!

This is a blog about a girl attending interviews after interviews to find a right job or may be at right time and at right phase of her life. This word “right time” is something the blog is all about and to know, please read and  enjoy!!

There is a perfect time planned for everything in life and one can feel this truth only after certain vital experiences that life throws in a harder way sometimes!

She heard a lot and loads about what is an interview like, way of handling it, preparation before going for it and many more facts and figures when she was in her graduation days! In fact to start with, her first interview happened in an off campus interview style that were being conducted in some college near to a shopping mall. She just finished her graduation a week before this and was enjoying her holidays. On a Sunday noon, she along with her sister were on a shopping  mode. You may not believe it but yes, luck and opportunity may knock your door any time through any way it chooses to! This experience of her’s is the best fun-filled one as she was not scared/prepared or absolute no fear of facing people or questions at that moment though it was a sudden one. Her sister just wished her all the best and she sat for the interview in no time. Two rounds and 45 minutes with the process lead and HR person. Bingo! Offer letter with a job is in her hands along with the shopping bags! How thrilling it must have been for her! Wow!

Time gave her an opportunity to taste luck and favour of securing a job in a blink of eye however later consequences gave her totally very different experience of finding a single job that became tough.

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Confidence, self-esteem, thought process, and many more valuable personality traits got affected while going through this process and her trails are still on no matter what. Many advised her to leave her attempts and relax being a good and happy house wife. Few advised some easy and short cut ways of finding some job that may or may not be a right fit for her but to get a satisfaction of being a working woman and to be able to earn some money at the end of each month. Few asked to leave it for time and destiny. She kept hearing all this however, her inner voice kept motivating her to try and try till she reaches the point she wanted to.  I believe only that person/Individual knows and understands the struggle and travel process when he/she is sure of the destination. Marriage was a sudden plan that happened to her and a relocation followed which played a major role in leaving her first job abruptly. There was with a confidence that new city so-called as ” City of Opportunities” she and her husband relocated may give her a job after or within 6 months at least and meanwhile she can enjoy her earlier months of a new marriage and life. However, destiny had a different plan for her. Its 6 full years now since she left her first job and she is still attending interviews after interviews to find a job again. True and a fact that’s happening with her. She is still attending interviews continuously since 6 years to find a right job at the right time god has planned for her. Her persistence and believing her self with her positive thought process is keeping her up to attend and speak during the interviews with utmost grace and confidence.

She made friends with many thoughts in her own mind during this journey that were disturbing, motivating and sometimes pulling her down or yet times asking her to stretch a bit more till she cracks some interview. She gets ready and prepares for the interview each time but it can be a bad interview, or unfit role or sometimes as always not the right time yet for her to get a job in her life. It may sound like ” Just a job” but yes, there are people who are struggling like her to get this one simple job. In her case she need not earn or be a bread maker for the family, but for many others it’s a must thing in life as equal as their each breadth. Through this experience she understood the meaning of “WORK IS WORSHIP”  no matter its small or big and there will be no day with sun light without a dark night. She believed and understood the meaning behind the line she heard ” Nothing stays long that comes easily”.

She is now waiting for one opportunity to work like any other women out there and get a satisfaction of she being independent again and to be called as “working women” for once.  She is not thirsty to earn more and more or to have a lavish life style with many savings losing the current happy and peaceful lifestyle she is blessed with however, still attending interviews to work once and leave it on her own with complete pride and grace. She doesn’t want to think or feel bad in her  forty’s or fifty’s of age that if she must have tried once she must have got a job.

Every job carry’s its own dignity. It doesn’t matter if its small or big, less money or more, I would like to show my respect and value to every one in the world who works hard each day and fills their stomach and takes care of their families with respect and grace.  Every attempt of achieving something in life is to be valued and respected. I hope she finds a good job at the right time to focus her capabilities and strengths. Her belief in herself and motivation from her family is making her travel through this INTERVIEW process for 6 years now and still going good just not for a job but to see many hidden turnings of her life planned by the super power.

As always thanks for taking time reading my blog!

Part 5: An invisible rescue boat – Sail starts!! – Process of detachment!

As a continuation to the part 4 –

Being unable to decide and move to any direction finally they took a risk of giving a strong kick-start and believed in their destiny that it is trying to show them some meaning full and quiet soulful experiences in the form of these relocation & travel experiences. Meanwhile during the gaps between the travel times ,they had a very tough and unsettled routine where many day-to-day activities went for a toll as they kept moving to 5 different places staying with parents, siblings and friends in 6 months of  gap time.  Their personal priorities took a back step and had no option rather to wait and see. That’s when both had individual realisations that how important and precious is the time given by god in one’s life span of limited years to spend with our family and better-halves and to ones own self on a healthy note. We generally take people and things for granted as long as we assume they are eternal and permanent in nature. However, due to this travel and regular relocation with family set up they both got to know the importance of time, each family person they spent with and their own selves as both got a chance to feel the time and life happening around them on a continuous basis more deeply setting apart from regular flow of busy lifestyles we generally have. She personally served her parents and in-laws in the mean time they got to spend with in these gap stays and also felt their presence more deeply which did not happen when things were settled and normal on a regular note. On a personal front she realised how important is to treat and love her better half and spend more quality time together as long as life exists in them. Like always she believes every experience she had has something to tell her and its her who ignored to see it.

Finally again after 6 months this couple were asked to go back to the same place again with complete family relocation. This time her mind and thoughts were in complete control and she is enjoying the stay as it comes to her each day. She realised nothing is permanent in nature and she being attached to a rented home, gardens, place and few friends they made in the past were the main cause of her internal suffering. After all these bitter turnings of life they have seen and experienced, both are now living each day on a very special note enjoying each meal with sweet nothings at every EOD. The connection between them became even more strong and loving.

They no more have valentines day or marriage day coming just once in a year as they carry the feeling of celebration and joy of being together and alive waking up each day together in their minds. She is now free of attachments she had with people, places and things around. However she also learnt to see and enjoy life much better after all these travel experiences.  She now knows the actual meaning and difference between attachment vs detachment for all the better reasons in the world. As always her husbands love and care is protecting her and keeping her warm in the winter. 🙂

She started getting the actual meaning and sense of lines as she used to hear from her most valued friends, elders and family “Time is precious” – “Love your family” and enjoy your life as it comes!!

As always thanks for taking time and reading my blog!

Part 4: An invisible rescue boat – Sail starts!! – Process of detachment!

An invisible rescue boat – Sail starts” is a part wise based real-time story that is being written based on true life happenings with a couple. Please take some time to read both part 4/5 completely as I am writing in part wise in order to cover and conclude.

Many of us have strong, medium and low emotional quotient. It will be coming to us by birth, the place and family we are born, impact of the brought up and the education we had, finally the pattern of life designed for us by the super power.  This EQ is something that actually rules the heart at every junction of life where we feel low, happy or excited about anything. I heard and read that detachment is ultimate bliss for a human being that drives him/her towards soulful experience. As per one of the buddha’s saying “The root of suffering is attachment”. This couple got to see a very different experience in their recent last 2 – 3 years of  life together. They feel they have seen some life sudden turnings that are unplanned and that’s when they realised on their own that process of detachment started for them on an individual note but to experience together. She is a person who believes everything has a reason when it happens and all are destined to experience on their own .

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The meaning of this line will be understood not by reading ,writing or listening but by experiencing it literally on one’s own!

Life has planned all the learning’s ready for each one of us in some or the other way when the understanding happens naturally. Once she enters the age after 16 her concentration was drawn towards these kind of sayings as she was trying to draw meaning of it. She had to wait for her turn. After getting married as every couple has, they too had few challenging situations and occasions they felt very low together and yes also some fun coming in between as special guest to give them some hope and energy.

They were happy and at the same time confused when her husband was offered a onsite trip which can boost his career graph in many ways. She had to take a call on her career for the decision to be made and yes finally together as always, they took a decision to relocate to a foreign land where they have no friends, relatives and away from their family crossing oceans and flying in the air for some hours long. The on site opportunity was supposed to be a long-term however, due to unplanned occurrences at professional end they had to travel to and fro relocating complete family setup on a very sudden limited note.  This initially gave her an impression as apart from hard work , few things do need a bit of luck and favour for a good consistency and stability. She felt very low as many personal and travel plans got smashed all at once and they had to vacate the first home they rented together with so much of love and happiness. She was attached to every single living and non living things around and happy with her emotional feed she was giving to herself.  However after a long wait of 6 full months at their homeland, they were sent for the second time to the same place.  By this time hope inside her is still alive as fresh as a flower that just blossomed an hour back and she was up with excitement and hope to take up the second chance to see the world. She did not realise this travel experience of to and fro which is not making her happy and comfortable is part of her life learning’s planned by the super power.  She again finished all the shopping and packing required for their trip and relocation. She felt good once they are seated inside the flight and landed back after a long journey. More than the tiring journey, she thought all her compromises and waiting fetched her one more chance.

To their surprise no… this time its a shock you may not believe it, they were again asked to go back to their homeland as the project got rolled off in just  4 months  for some reasons after their second trip started. This time strangely she had no tears in her eyes when compared to the first time. She was blank inside her mind and not knowing where the life is taking them towards.

Both were stuck and had no thoughts flowing inside rather to accept the happenings. They flew back to their motherland again in span of just 4 months of setting up home and daily routine and decided to stay back without any further hopes. To admit, she was very sure and still left empty inside as if she left her soul back and just carried her body. All her thoughts and heart were with the place and the country they stayed for a just few months. It was hard for her to get detached with those simple yet temporary time & memories they spent there.  All the waiting period they spent was unsettled, disturbed and again waiting for the news to either stay back or go back on a on site trip.  They were literally in the middle of the ocean as the onsite trip is important to them personally from many areas of life however at the same time something is not falling in the right place. That’s when after again a wait period of 6 months third chance appeared before them taking to the same place they travelled twice. This time both were very much hesitant to fly again doubting the future and its shocks stored for them.

Lets see how life has planned great things and wonderful times to come for them!

PLEASE READ THE CONCLUSION TO THIS STORY IN PART 5 that follows after this blog: